26.1.12

Time for a rant - this time about love (and a GIVEAWAY)

It's nearly Valentine's Day and with thoughts of cherubs and hearts, flowers and chocolates everyone is happy and.......wait! people are not happy! No one is happy! Valentine's Day does not evoke happiness at all! Why? Well I'm glad you asked, pull up a chair, grab a coffee and a biscuit and read on....


Let's start with some history. As usual this 'Saint's' Day has been hijacked by the Christian Religions from ancient pagan times. In ancient Rome, 13, 14 and 15 February were celebrated as Lupercalia, a pagan fertility festival. This seems to be the basis for a celebration of love on this date.(do click the link as there was apparently spanking, whipping and all sorts going on!) anyway...fast forward to AD 496 ish where St Valentine gets to hijack the festival. St Valentine (it seems) was a bishop that went against Rome to allow and to actually carry out secret illegal marriages, so that's his precarious link with love sorted then....

Any way back to the present day, by now shops all over the UK (and no doubt other countries) are filled with Valentine's cards, gifts and general nagging to 'not forget'. Because what is more romantic than grabbing a preprinted card with a naff greeting inside (that you probably don't even read if you are a bloke) and scribbling a question mark inside it before bunging it at the object of your affections, maybe with a plastic rose or a 'Me-to-You' bear or a 'Tatty Teddy' (what every grown woman/man wants)

which leads nicely to the rant.(blimey you are thinking, I thought that was the rant!)

Married people do not like Valentines day, it makes them feel guilty if they do nothing but stupid if they do something, after all, we are already married! I can hardly be a secret Valentine to my husband! If we want to go out everywhere will be full up and more expensive than normal, AND getting a babysitter will be a nightmare unless we employ a couple of lovesick teens that have no where to go for a snog.

Single People do not like St Valentine's day. Why would you! Everywhere you look are couples and pictures of couples, advice on love and couply-ness. Vomit. Give me a break. If you are single it's either through choice, so shut up telling me I 'need' love. Or because I haven't found the right person and nagging me about it won't help, it'll just make me sob into my (bought for myself) chocolates.

What of singles 'in a relationship? do you like Valentines day? Surely you are either serious enough to fall into a similar category to the 'marrieds' or you are starting out and still in the lovely dovey stage anyway - you hardly need a special day!

From what I can see only teens and young kids like Valentines day - a perfect excuse for 'My friend fancies you' and secret drawn hearts on A4 paper in the art room slipped into lockers at breaktime. A a youngster it's cute.

BUT! we cannot escape the rampant march of capitalism, consumerism, and other things ending in -sm. (no one say it - I bet you are all thinking it though) And so my dearest blog readers I give you the chance (thanks to the lovely @carbontwelve on twitter) to have a relaxing a lovely Valentine's day regardless of age, sex, sexual orientation or marital status!
To be in with a chance to win a grown up present for yourself or a loved one for Valentine's day, just leave a comment telling me what you plan to do on 14th February, and email me your email address (or follow me on twitter) so I can contact you if you win.


The lovely present is a set of pretty candles, one scented with 'passion', (don't ask! but may help with the last -sm) , made by Steve Lawrie whose workshop is in the Abby Arcade, West Malling in Kent. They have a website too at http://www.katiescandlesandgifts.co.uk/

So to win these
Please let me know what you are up to! (Closing date for entries 7th February)


and the winner is Shareen+1 please email me your contact details so I can sort delivery!!



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18 comments:

  1. I'm going to have an old fashioned tea party with tiny cakes and proper tea cups and saucers. With children, friends and family

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    1. ooh a tea party sounds lovely. I shall bake cakes I think. Now we have a cake satnd it sort of asks to be filled

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  2. I will be entertaining the children as it will be half term then hoping that the OH might cook me something nice or at least order a curry! I might nick the above idea though and make cupcakes and have a tea party with the kiddies x x No tatty bears or forever friends rubbish appreciated here! ;)

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    1. Curry is certaily a fine option.... :-)

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  3. Anonymous27/1/12

    I'm going to offer to babysit for you on Valentine's Day. I aint no love sick teenager (as you well know!). And I promise your child plenty of entertainment ... in the form of my child!!! How could you resist!
    PS
    When I win this awesome competition, please give the crappy, er, I mean, exquisite gift to the second most original answer.

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  4. This Valentines day will be spent doing what we like to do best, a good old fashioned session of S&M ...... oh okay the truth ..... homecooked meal, whiskey for him, pretend wine for me (with child dontcha know!) and a dvd on the sofa. I know, so rock and roll, but its our last Valentines together before the baby is born so why on earth would we want to spend it in a crowded over price restaurant with no privacy at all.
    Everyday is Valentines day as far as we're concerned, sorry try not to puke!

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    1. oh make the most of the peace! babies are a delight but they do restrict the peace ;)

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  5. I think i'll leave the romance for steak and blowjob day. Or spend all night on google hangouts like I did on new years night.

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    1. When is steak and blowjob day? I must remember to be ill that day .......

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  6. I'm going to spend the day enjoying myself ad my baby bump! Starting from a lovely breakfast of my choice, relaxing, pampering myself with facials and a bath etc and telling my bump how much I love her... May even eat a bowl o nesquik cereal as she seems to love it :)

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    1. I like that idea too - i may even copy you :)

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    2. and the winner is Shareen+1 please email me your contact details so i can sort delivery!!

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  7. Anonymous31/1/12

    I actually think Valentine's Day is worst of all for people in an unhappy relationship. If you're single, it can at least be fun to send anonymous cards to people you fancy a bit and what not. If you're in a happy relationship, you either don't need to do anything, or you can make a bit of a gesture (hand-made card, nice meal, wev). But if you're in an unhappy relationship all the cards and presents you see just make you feel awful about how desperately sad you are.
    Then again, even if you think you're in a happy relationship, Valentine's Day can prove you wrong! I remember being with someone who it turned out didn't appreciate me and for whom I bought a card and a present, sent it through the post... and they didn't pick it up for two weeks, and /certainly/ didn't get me anything. Actually, the latter I could forgive; the former; no, and it was the beginning of the end, when it became clear my gestures didn't mean much to the other person.
    Gosh, what a rant!
    But the long and short is, this year, I'm at the start of what seems to be a very happy relationship with someone I think is wonderful and who seems to think similarly of me. However, as for the day itself, I have no idea; I have my child with me on that day so I suspect if we do end up doing anything at all it will be a nice meal chez moi. I plan to make him a card & think up a present, although really I'm more looking forward to celebrating Imbolc the week beforehand.
    Maybe I should just present the entire thing to him as Lupercalia, in fact, and have a wild session of lots and lots of amazing, raunchy sex... then again, that's pretty much every Friday night ;)

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    1. Good point, it must be awful for people in that sort of dead relationship, or, as you say, the sort that you discover is on the wane. Hope yours is good this year! With wine, something and song :-)

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  8. DH and I never do anything, it is a commercial holiday.

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  9. It's our wedding anniversary on the 10th Feb and for some reason we always forget about Valentines Day! This year will be no exception I am sure. I will be happy with a card and a nice bottle of wine, and if I am lucky I may get a bunch of daffs!

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  10. and the winner is Shareen+1 please email me your contact details so i can sort delievery!!

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