I blogged about my marriage proposal a few days ago and when conversation with some online friends turned to wedding dresses it seemed appropriate for me to do a follow up post.
I was married in the early 90s and I did not wear a wedding dress. I'm not the sort for flouncy and feminine, and wasn't confident that I could pull off the sultry and sexy, slinky look, dresses just aren't me (no one mention festival ballgowns - that's something I only discovered in my 40s). My mum and dad lived abroad and Mr TM didn't want a big wedding. He wanted to be married to me - but is not a fan of huge parties. I think I was lucky he didn't suggest we elope and have no party at all!
Also I was quite 'unconventional' even then. (surprise!) I liked a mix of hip-hop, and heavy metal music with a large splash of what we'd now call emo and some new romantic stuff too. So when I was deciding what to wear for my wedding I knew I didn't want a big flouncy white dress (wedding dresses in the late 80s and early 90s were VERY big) At first I thought about just a black wedding dress but they were really expensive and I've always been cheap (stop sniggering at the back) in the end I settled on traditional English hunting attire. I bought a red jacket (which I still own and wear) at a clothing sale where models sold off the clothes they no longer wanted after a photo shoot, I think I paid £5. I already owned a long black skirt and some black thigh-high boots, I bought a wing collar shirt and a hat with a tiny black veil. Sorted.
My grandma made our cake too - so that was free (and extremely tasty!) Here she is with me before the reception. (sadly my grandma died while I was pregnant with DD so she never met her - but that's a whole other story)
And here is the cake she made, and the bouquet she made too - with silk flowers, so I still have it.
and here (finally) a picture of Mr TM and I cutting the cake.
My wedding day, over 20 years ago. Does it all look terribly dated? Yes I think it does, but it was a super day, and we had great fun, and here we still are over 20 years later.